Giving constructive feedback is challenging for introverts and for engineering managers. It is a critical component of your job to help move the team forward.
Feedback conversations that only include constructive feedback or only positive feedback are problematic.
It is advisable to give both kind of feedback to provide a balanced approach. This also helps the receiver see that performance is a work in progress.
Preparing for feedback meetings beforehand makes it easier for introverted engineering managers to remain calm and focused.
Include small talk at the beginning of the feedback meeting to make everyone feel more comfortable.
When giving feedback, focus on the issue, not the person.
Shift the conversation to solve the problem as a team challenge rather than singling out an individual for something they did wrong.
Developing an environment in which feedback is a regular part of the process can help to prevent defensiveness and promote growth.
Introverted engineering managers should not try to behave like extroverted "bosses."
Feedback is a two-way street, and managers should solicit insights from their team about how they can provide better support.