When you transition from engineer to engineering manager (EM), you shift from dealing with technical tasks to working with people. Diversity is an important consideration for your team and results. However, the most important diversity is the mix of personalities you’ll be working with. Everyone has a different personality and approach to work. The problem is when someone doesn’t understand this and fails to manage the different personalities on their team appropriately. You have to take personality into account when working with your team, especially when giving critical feedback. Everyone has different connection needs based on their personality. You need to accept personality traits as part of the people you’re working with and not take it personally. Managing different kinds of people well takes time.
As an EM, you’ll not only oversee technical tasks, but you'll also need to manage your team. This means being aware of their personalities and how they impact team dynamics. This means speaking to each side in a “language” they’ll understand. Failing to make personality management a priority means spending even more time, energy, and resources hiring and training replacements. Knowing how people’s personalities work will help you build better and healthier relationships with them. It also helps you resist the tendency to approach your team with a one-size-fits-all approach.